The NHS Have Offended Me! I’m Probably Being Ridiculous and Oversensitive but Still….?
Question by K8: The NHS have offended me! I’m probably being ridiculous and oversensitive but still….?
I had my first midwife appointment earlier on this week and she asked me all the routine questions about my medical history and mental health and stuff. Obviously being honest, when she asked if I’d ever taken drugs, I said when I was 16 and in my “naughty rebellious stage” I tried cannabis once which I hated and ecstasy once which again I hated and I haven’t touched anything like that since. She then asked me if I drink and I said no, I didn’t even drink before I got pregnant, I’m basically completely teetotal and have been for years now. Then she asked me if I had ever been depressed or self harmed and I said yes, when I was 16 and hadn’t been/done either since. I am completely sound of mind, teetotal and a very happy person right now and this morning, I got a letter in the post from the midwife saying “thankyou for being so open about your past. here are some leaflets you may find helpful” and enclosed were 2 leaflets, one about “dealing with a drug addiction during pregnancy”- which told me the dangers of taking heroin (?!?!?!?!?!?!) and various other narcotics and one telling me the dangers of drinking during pregnancy!!!! Ok, I know I’m very hormonal and sensitive right now but COME ON! I feel utterly offended! Did she not listen to a word I said?! How patronising, I mean, yeah nice of her that she obviously felt she wanted to help but seriously! Are the NHS normally this patronising? Because when I actually really need their help, they’re imcompetant, rude, uncaring and slppy but when I don’t need “drug abuse advice” I get it shoved down my throat! Anyone else had this? Oh and I’m expecting that some stuck up pretencious idiot will try and lecture me and tell me off for trying drugs ONCE when I was a teenager, all I can say to that is, stop being so narrow minded and ignorant and get off your high horse. THANKS! 😀
Scott K, I sympathise with you that you’ll never ever understand what it’s like to be pregnant and almost constantly want to bash someone’s skull in, in this instance it’s your skull I want to bash in for being so ignorant and not understanding that yes, I know I am being oversensitive (SEE THE TITLE OF MY EFFING QUESTION YOU BLIND F**K) but pregnant women have to put up with a constant surge of hormones which make them want to cry/shout/scream 1000 times more than they normally would. If you’re going to come in the pregnancy section and tell a pregnant woman how to feel, then at least get some lessons in sensitivity you stupid ignorant c**t.
And yes, Sherry has summed up my feeling PERFECTLY. I’m worrying about what they’ve got down on my medical records now, I don’t want anyone thinking I’m some sort of heroin addict for crying out loud!
Best answer:
Answer by Sherry Babyy
You definitely have the right to be offended. I would be too. She obviously didn’t listen to a word you said. And God knows what she wrote down in your record. I’d call them & give them a piece of my mind.
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Answer by siesteph
k, well,
she heard you say YES when she asked about using drugs
it don’t matter to her WHEN you used them, just that you did use them
it’s all normal to inform new mommies about all the BAD stuff out there in the world that could harm baby to be if mommy’s not careful
it’s just an education thing that all doctors and nurses have to do (i don’t think they have a choice)
Good Luck
Congratulations
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