Should I Allow a Drug Addict to Move in With My Spouse and I?
Question by r.k.: Should I allow a drug addict to move in with my spouse and I?
This is a sensitive topic so please think before posting. One of my spouse’s relatives is a heroin addict although that person claims that they have only “slipped a couple of times” since going through detox (no rehab) a few months ago. my spouse is considering letting them move in so that they can save money to get a place of their own, but they have moved from place to place for the same reason and each time they have either been kicked out or “had to move” because they “felt they were being taken advantage of” by the people they were living with. I feel that if they move in with us, they will have no reason to leave and will be with us forever…plus the fact that I think they are still using drugs and if that addiction is bad enough will start stealing from us. I also dont like the people they associate with and that is another concern…since they dont have a job I would worry about who is in my home when Im at work.
We have tried to help this person out now for over two years only to find out that they were using drugs, so obviously we werent happy to find out all the money we gave them was used for drugs, although they said not all of it was for drugs.
My spouse and I dont fight but this situation has pushed us to our limits. This person seems to think they have a “right” to move in with us since we have opened our home to members of my family in times of distress, but my arguement is that that was always a temporary situation and we knew exactly when they were leaving. This person intends on living with us indefinitely. We are planning to build a new home within the next year and they even asked if we were taking their needs into consideration and adding a small suite for them to live in.
Obviously I am completely unraveled by this. I lived with an addict for several years when I was younger and this has me completely scared to death to possibly go through it again.
Any advice?
Best answer:
Answer by Mountain man
Sounds like y6our the one on crack!
run forest run!
Answer by H A E
Tell your husband you are sorry, but you are not going to live with this person. Period. End of story. Sometimes you have to make decisions for the long haul. What will help your marriage? What will hurt your marriage? Because of your history with addicted relatives, this would probably be a situation you would eventually run from.