Fellow Adoptees…what Was It Like When You First Met or Contacted Your Bio Parents?
Question by Expendable: Fellow adoptees…what was it like when you first met or contacted your bio parents?
I never had some “gaping hole” that I needed to fill just because I was adopted, I was just curious. My real parents never talked bad about my bio parents, and honestly, I don’t know how they did it.
I already knew that I was born with heroin withdrawals, but I figured maybe my bio mom had become a better person since then. Well what do you know, I barely had to look on my own to find out she has been in and out of jail 5 times for prostitution and 3 times for drug use. Her most recent stint in jail was 7 months ago. She actually has a Myspace (even I don’t have one anymore, I grew out of that!) with a bunch of those glitter things that say “SEXY” and “ROYAL *ITCH”, the song “My Neck My Back” playing and has some skanky pictures of herself posted up. The woman is 39! She also has a new boyfriend named “P-Dubz” who is a “up and coming rapper” who is 42 and white but dresses like 50 cent (and his “raps” are all about “hoez and smoking blunts with the homies”).
My bio dad is in jail for child molestation so I didn’t look any more into him.
I actually still sent my bio mother a message, despite what I had seen, and she didn’t send anything back. I’m kind of glad she didn’t, the whole thing made me love my REAL parents more. I don’t think i’d be where I am today if I lived with my bio mom and “P-Dubz.”
If you are just going to come here to yell at me because I don’t hate my adoptive parents, then please go away. Anyone who is an actual adoptee with an actual contribution, I want to hear you!
Helena, getting a tattoo is not the same as doing heroin. If you really think that, i’m honestly not sure what to say.
Its interesting that if I came on here whining about how my adoptive parents were evil, and my bio parents were the best, all the people who are criticizing me would be OOZING with sympathy for me. But just because my adoptive parents are great people and I don’t hate them, I get yelled at. And I have no clue what “trish part duex” is going on about, since I never said all bio parents are bad. She is lying and twisting my words around.
I get it. The rules of this board are: if you had a bad experience with adoption, whine and scream about it all you want and force your opinion on others, but if you are happy with being adopted, you are either a *itch or a liar. I hope no one actually takes advice from some of you.
Best answer:
Answer by wihntr
Just thank her for making 1 intelligent decision and giving you up. Then tell your real parents how much you love them, and move on.
Answer by maybe
If you hate her so much why do you care about any of this?